Thursday, October 29, 2020

10.29.20 Encouraging others is so special

Location: On the couch in my apartment

Time: 1:45 PM 

Mood (1 to 10, 10 = fantastic, 1 = absolutely horrible): Probably a 7! I'm feeling good, ready for it to be time to cook dinner, and doing some chores in the meantime. Also had a great conversation with my writing friends and got to encourage a friend (JJ) who was having a rough day feeling like he wasn't doing anything worthwhile to try to make his country better, and he lives in Indonesia. While the other two guys that were in the conversation (Sean, age 20, and Wyatt, age 35) had known him for a couple years, they both live in the States, but I had the connection with him of having lived in the same country, and I had the connection with Sean and Wyatt that I lived in the States. I helped tell JJ that he wasn't bothering us by talking about how he was feeling, and that we were his friends. Then he went to bed since it's 12 hrs later over there and it was past midnight. Then Wyatt and Sean were talking to each other and thanked me for being there and encouraging him with them.  I posted that part of the conversation below, it made me really happy. I'm always glad when the hard things that I have gone through are relevant in conversations I have with people, and when I get to encourage them because of my experiences. 

Last Meal: I had a belvita breakfast bar pack and now I'm sipping ginger honey tea.

Current level of exercise: Walked around yesterday when I went shopping!

Meds: All on time

 -Adderall: my 15mg at 9 am

 -Prozac: my 60 mg at 9 am

 -Coffee: my one cup at 8 am

General schedule of the day: I'm going to get dishes done (already started one dishwasher full!) and organize my shelves in my bathroom

Dump Zone:

Here's the conversation log, it was special to me. :) Now I've only known these people for about 6 weeks, but still I've joined their group and jumped in without a second thought. 


Of course it's a Discord server, so everyone has nicknames. Here's the guide

Rabbi Rabbit = JJ, the guy who lives in Indonesia who was having a rough time

Krampus = Sean, the guy who lives in Texas and has been friends with JJ for a long time

Kyron = Wyatt, the guy that lives in Oregon and had a temporary falling out with Sean a few weeks ago before they made up again and are now on good terms again

Grammar Ma = me, the person who joined 6 weeks ago and took on the role of mediator of disagreements, encourager of the depressed, ambassador between the Americans and 'foreigners' that are all friends but have misunderstandings sometimes





Today at 12:21 PM

Yeah. We're not just friends with the happy, funny, writer guy Rabbit, we're also friends with the parts of you that maybe are more depressing or sad, the parts of you that you don't think are worth other people's time. We're friends with you, all of who you are.

Today at 12:21 PM

Exactly

Today at 12:21 PM

thanks guys
12:21 PM
>:}

Today at 12:21 PM

you are a whole person, and we're friends with the whole you



later after JJ went to bed:


Krampus: This is memorable
12:42 PM
Like me and Wyatt have know JJ for almost 2 years so i can’t imagine how fake we would have to be to not hear him out and listen to him
12:42 PM
And you showed your true colors by being so nice to him
12:42 PM
@Grammar Ma

Today at 12:42 PM

Im glad that Grammar's here tbh because she's really good at those reassuring words that're lost on me

Today at 12:42 PM

She adds the woman’s touch

Today at 12:42 PM

I'm worried whenever I try to have a heart-to-heart with people it comes out like Kuria lol

Today at 12:43 PM

Lol i try to sway away from the frat energy
12:43 PM
Being like, “love ya bro”

Today at 12:44 PM

lol
12:45 PM
I've had conversations like this with people before where they were comforting me
12:45 PM
I used some of the very same words when I encourage others
12:46 PM
I'm glad I could be here to listen
12:47 PM
It's also really cool how he and I both have the connection of having lived in Indonesia, that's really cool!

Today at 12:48 PM

that is actually really cool and oddly specific and convenient

Today at 12:49 PM

for real though

Today at 12:50 PM

@Agent X brings out my softest side. Her and Shadow irl are the sole reason I reached back out to @Kyron, and then that’s how we came back together

Today at 12:50 PM

I'm so glad that you both came back together




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